Plan for Success when Using

A lot of people approach online dating in a rather random, haphazard manner. They would sign up for a popular dating site like Okcupid or, and essentially "wing" it. Without much thought, they'd throw up a profile, add pictures then go looking for someone to date.

match.comBut everything I've read seems to point to the fact that the people who are truly successful with online dating take a far more systematic approach. In short, they have a plan. While we don't have time to outline all the things that successful people on dating sites do, there are some commonalities, such as:

Carefully wording their profile - At the very least, you should read a few articles about the basic do's and don'ts when it comes to writing your profile. You'd be surprised how many people break even the most basic rules.

Adding a lot of photos - One or two photos usually doesn't cut it. You should add a few photos showing you in different settings, engaging in different activities.

Use only high quality photos - Some people post professionally taken photos. You don't necessarily have to go that far, but don't use low quality photos. Also, don't use photos showing you with members of the opposite sex.

Proactively contacting others - Don't just put up a profile then sit online like a wallflower. On sites like, it is absolutely essential that you reach out to as many people as possible. If someone interests you even the slightest bit, send a wink or message.

You also shouldn't try to save money when joining dating sites. Would you rather use a cheap or free site that gets you no results, or a reasonably priced site that delivers the goods? Fortunately, great sites like don't cost too much. You can get a 3-day free trial at to get started, but you'll eventually need to upgrade to a paid account if you're serious about online dating.

Other great sites you should consider are Christian Mingle, Zoosk, and Eharmony. The best strategy is to get a free trial for a number of sites then stick with the one that appeals to you the most.